Why I can’t find a girlfriend
19 single, never had a girlfriend.
Some minor/major turnoffs of mine:
1) Wear glasses?
2) Skinny
3) Can’t drive yet (although no girl has gotten to know me well enough to see if I can drive or not)
I have tried everything from online dating, to talking to random girls, to asking friends to hook me up.. (I have not tried clubbing or bars… Though)
1) at school I am always seen ALONE.
Girls might take me for a ‘loser’, someone ‘antisocial’ based on that. … And even with my friends, unless we go ‘clubbing’ or to a ‘bar…chances are I probably wouldn’t find a girl that way..
I am well aware that :
THE GUYS ARE THE INITIATORS. Guys must be the ones to start the ‘talk’.
I have friends but they go to another campus, and the ‘friends’ on my campus.. Well they are not so close to hang out and treat me like a friend… Nor do I find them attractive at all. When I first started my post secondary education, I used to hang out with a girl, talk to a girl:
It made another girl jealous.
As girls say: rule #1 don’t talk about other girls. Guys can take advantage of that ‘weakness’ of girls.
2) I am SKINNY. I guess girls want a sense of security.. I like some girls and am nice, smart, caring and could probably make them really happy girls… And be the best boyfriend they ever had..or at least try… But its hard to get a chance with a girl.. The main things holding me back are:
A) my high standard in going for the MOST GORGEOUS GIRLS
B) Being less physically attractive … i.e. Less built
3) I wear glasses, and don’t wear earrings or anything ‘cool’ so .. Some girl consider me a ‘nerd’… And don’t think I would be as much fun probably. They might think that instead of being funny, I am more likely to be busy with my textbooks…or happy to solve some physics or mathematical equations. Trust me.. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT WEAR GLASSES WHO ARE NERDY AS HELL.
Ultimately: I have tried to change my appearance, wear brand name clothing… But the only thing that attracts girls is my PERSONALITY, KINDNESS, INTELLIGENCE. So basically girls who I tell that I am smart, and getting good marks, girls who see me in their classes and realize that I am smart….
those girls are the most attracted to me. To other girls I seem all boring … And nothing special in their eyes.
Well, I’m 28, and I had never been with a girl, never. I had try everything too and I had never been even kissed by a girl. Maybe it’s a curse we ran into or maybe is that we both use glasses, I don’t know, girls want boys to be perfect, I assume. Don’t feel bad if you are only 20, look at me I’m 28 year old virgin man. Sometimes I feel like there is not enough girls for boys in this World, meaning about there more inhabitants boys than girls right now in this World we are living. I try to hide my reality by doing certain stuff, like surfing the Web, reading books and playing games, so I can’t survive my life spam for being alone, but I doesn’t pay off. I had been excluded from any participation with women, they don’t want to be part of me. That really hurts, every night I dream up with women, but it seems that dream will never come true. It’s hard because you will always be thinking about women the more that the time passes. So I don’t know why I had been put in this suffering, good luck.
well I paid girls for action ; .. so virgin not a problem. It may be psycho to do some, but not as psycho as some guy in the IT field who killed girls at a gym club recently because he couldn’t get sex from a girlfriend or whatever.
I’m 21 .. I still got my school years to find someone. Its comforting to find someone as hopeless as me.
I tweet nonstop about my girlfriend trials. http://twitter.com/xsouldeath
I KNOW there are girls I could have approached or even who started to talk to me, where if I turned it into a
“hi my name is” and got her number it could have been different,
Being older its tricky to find people your age but I believe even for you its possibly. Keep trying online dating.. I find it’s a failure,,
Yeah girls don’t need sex as much as guys, and they don’t really care for boyfriends as much. If not id have girls approaching me or starting random conversation with me more frequently.. For me I got maybe 2 girls in 4 years who sort of talk to me ..
Its okay to survive reality.. But bad habits, whether drugs , paying girls.. Like “holistic massage clinics” girls give hand action for $40 to $60.. So its some relief, rather than going through every day all aggressive.
Of course time with friends or maybe the “Starbucks high” .. And going out with co-workers could work ..
Yes I also dream up girls, I fantasize about girls who I originally thought I was too good for, girls who don’t wear make up and such.. Girls with less than skinny arms.
Don’t give up. You are starting to sound like Mr. “no girls want me” who killed girls.
try
tdotwire.com
plentyoffish.com
eharmony.ca
craigslist.org
Best online dating sites though none worked for me. Maybe you’re better lucky, or have more money or your own place, a good car.
Have you ever approached a stranger girl and talked to her, like on the bus, maybe at the mall.
I Blog 24/7 on ideas to get girls ..I have sucessfuly gotten a girls number, I went to pizza pizza like 30 times and eventually well I paid by MasterCard
So she gave me a pen to sign and I said “would you like to hang out sometime” and She said “um yes”.. And she called me back after my first call but not after that.