Your friends and people you meet disappearing

I am talking about your friends and people you meet disappearing, in fact they are avoiding you(indirect/direct). Most likely it is direct.

For example, you meet someone, and you both see each other, but they pretend not to know you?

Why?

• they’re friends may wonder why they would talk to someone ‘unattractive’ perhaps
• they may not want to associate with you

Be an ‘alive’  visible friend , rather than an invisible one.

It is natural to avoid people unattractive, I guess talking to attractive people makes you appear as more attractive, but then again, what happened to respecting people for who they are.

People I know seem never there for me..

• after weeks of not hearing from a friend you wonder if you don’t make an effort to contact them, if you will you ever hear from them again
• I wonder if they are avoiding me
• I wonder if they care
• I wonder if they are busy
• I wonder if they are getting ahead of me, in a sort of competitive and evil way(which DEFINITELY can be true)
• The less a person talks to you, the higher the chance of their being a BAD FRIEND.

Why [ is an antisocial friend a bad one ] ?

• Less able to help you
• Less able to listen to your problems (and even if they do listen.. they will not truly care )
• Less able to listen to you
• you are less able to help them

Define antisocial?

• Doesn’t invite you to ‘hang out’ (maybe has their own set of friends and doesn’t really give a damn about you, and is just using you) .. or maybe too stupid or foolish to realize it or maybe too busy with ’schoolwork’ ..
• Don’t ask how you are.. and more than “how are you?” .. 
• Don’t engage in conversation beyond hi ..
• Don’t engage in more joking conversation.. when you first meet someone you sure avoid talking about certain issues (sex, drugs) for fear of losing your respect..  eventually though, if someone won’t swear,   it will seem that you are just a professional person.. and not wanting to be a true friend of theirs.. or it will seem that you are NOT FUN!

The moral: talk and chill / spend time with your friends! and if you’re busy MAKE THE TIME DARN IT!

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~ by pdna on February 15, 2008.